Micro-lolgressions

3 Mar

Originally posted on Privilege Denying Tranny:

microlulgressionsThings that are not micro aggressions:

  • not wanting to suck dick
  • knowing that penis=male
  • not wanting a dude in a women’s only space
  • that words like girl, woman, female and lesbian having meanings and nothing to do with men
  • knowing that men in women’s clothing are not female
  • knowing that you can’t change your sex
  • knowing that being a lesbian means not wanting to fuck dudes or their ‘lady wangs’
  • knowing a vagina is not a bonus hole
  • knowing that straight dudes in drag are not lesbians
  • knowing that women have value without men in our midst
  • knowing that saying “abracadabra i’m a woman” doesn’t make you one
  • knowing that female health, reproductive rights are not ‘transphobic’
  • knowing that females have vaginas
  • knowing that gender is a hierarchy and all men are privileged

fixeditforyaetc etc etc! So many more reasons that knowing a man is a man isn’t a micro…

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Murder, Mystery & Misogyny in Oz

3 Mar

Originally posted on REAL for women:

18 womenhave been murdered by known or suspected male violence in the first 60 days of 2015 in Australia. 9 of these 18 women are believed to have been murdered by their former or current male partners. 4 of these 9 women had either Domestic Violence Orders in place, or a history of domestic violence that was known to police, one woman was seeking tighter restrictions.

we are used to violence against women“If these deaths were terrorism-related, we would be up in arms and spending millions, but we know what and who it is and we don’t act.” Liz Waterhouse – Reclaim The Night Perth

What is happening instead, is a repeated narrative in media reporting that undermines the male violence happening to women in Australia, even when this male violence kills them.

* In the recent murder of a 28 year old woman in the ACT, The Canberra Times, with little information known at the time…

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Why listening2lesbians?

1 Mar

Originally posted on listening2lesbians:

After experiencing abuse while calling out sexism in the online LGBTI community, I wrote a short piece asking the community to reflect on its misogyny.

Hearing women’s responses to the article, I started to wonder about the extent of lesbian abuse and silencing, both in the LGBTI and the broader communities.

What I discovered is that we don’t know the extent of the problem, except anecdotally. Acts of violence, up to and including murder, go practically unnoted, with little or no community outrage.  Abuse and silencing are not uncommon but are practically invisible, in the absence of a way to share what happens to us except on a one-to-one basis.

Without recording our collective experiences, and only hearing them as individualised stories, we cannot readily see or demonstrate patterns.

How, then, can we name, analyse or address a problem we can’t even quantify?

I care about stopping the abuse of women, particularly lesbians.

Listening2lesbians was…

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Clarisse Thorn tries to refute an argument against BDSM.

28 Feb

Originally posted on The Prime Directive:

It has occurred to me that, while I do get BDSM people wasting my time while trying to defend their abusive sexuality (see for example the comments section on this entry), I don’t really engage with the more serious BDSM arguments out there. That, I think, would be a lot more productive.

Therefore I wanted to start by addressing the words of one Clarisse Thorn (probably not her real name, but who knows), a self-professed “S&M feminist,” a contradiction in terms. In this entry, she intends to address the anti-BDSM argument that “BDSM legitimizes abuse” (despite labeling the entry #1, it seems she wrote no more, perhaps weary of the cognitive dissonance she was triggering in her own head).

I want to make clear, first of all, that BDSM does not only “legitimize abuse,” it is abuse. BDSM is a cult-like framework and, like all other such frameworks…

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On the Sovereign Violence of Women

27 Feb

Miep:

Beautifully put.

Originally posted on Jane Clare Jones:

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Sara Ahmed, The Cultural Politics of Emotion

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Judith Butler, The Future of Sexual Difference

I am trying to understand – I have been trying to understand – how, having steeped ourselves in a similar tradition, we could come to such different conclusions.

It is claimed that certain women should not say certain things. That a woman who finds healing from male violence in the company of other women should be silent about the power of that healing. That she should not try to protect that space (or even raise questions about protecting that space). That she is wrong to be concerned that it will no longer be there for the women who come after her. Because that healing comes at the expense of others. Because that healing, therefore, is violence.

I understand something of the logic. I have spent my life thinking the resistance to sovereign violence, unpicking the way…

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“New law offers protection to abused Native American women”

26 Feb

Originally posted on Anti-Porn Feminists:

Lise Brunner_White Earth Ojibwe Nation

In the “U.S.” last year, Congress approved a law — promoted by the Obama administration — that for the first time will allow Indian tribes to prosecute certain crimes of male violence committed by non-Indians in Indian country. The Justice Department on Thursday announced it had chosen three tribes for a pilot project to assert the new authority.

While the law has been praised by tribal leaders, native women and the administration as a significant first step, it still falls short of protecting all Indian women from the epidemic of violence they face on tribal lands.

The new authority, which will not go into effect for most of the country’s 566 federally recognized Indian tribes until March 2015, covers domestic violence committed by non-Indian husbands and boyfriends, but it does not cover sexual assault or rape committed by non-Indians who are “strangers” to their victims. It also does not extend…

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Replicating patterns of disbelief

23 Feb

Miep:

Excellent.

Originally posted on Feminists Unknown's Blog:

When I think of being young I think of being scared. I was scared all the time. I remember lying in bed, listening out for sounds, or watching for faces to change and if one face in particular changed, it wouldn’t change back, not soon enough.

I used to blame my brother. I thought that if he didn’t get hit, I wouldn’t get hit. I thought he caused it all. Then I blamed my mother. I thought that if only she’d let my brother get hit enough for all the hitting to be “done,” it would end and none of it would spill over onto me.

I never blamed the person who did the hitting, obviously. You just don’t. When it comes to blame it has to be women and children first.

When I had a breakdown in my teens I tried to speak about what was wrong. Unfortunately, people…

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