A story of suicide

28 Apr


Well, yes; there are.

Originally posted on Bureaucromancy:


Right. So then. There are so many things wrong with this.

It’s a very sad story indeed. There are things I want to say about it which are not very kind or caring. Sorry.

WTF you wanted 4chan to love you? It was 4chan. Why would this ever happen?

You’re in danger if the mass approval of the Net is important to you, and if you want 4chan to prevent you from suicide, there are literally no words. It would be like me going to a pro-ana website and asking them to validate my decision to be overweight and not diet.

People on the Net aren’t automatically your friends who want to help you. They’re very often your enemies (I used to have a collection of death threats and attempts at doxxing for being an open communist) and sometimes they’re just cunts who find your misery amusing. 4chan, Christ…

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I value separate spaces…

27 Apr


Posted about a year ago, about MichFest. Eloquent piece.

Originally posted on Big Mouth Girl:

[This originally came from an online conversation. It does not use the SSCAB/DSCAB language from my previous post. It’s way shorter of a blog and less academic sounding, more personal and about my experience of the Womyn Born Female space that is the Michigan Womyn’s Music Festival.]

I value separate spaces of many kinds. I have participated in lesbian only, People of Color only, Women of Color only, black women only, black lesbian only, all women only, Womyn Born Female only. I get something different from each. I don’t particularly value queer space, but I don’t begrudge those who do taking it. For me “queer” tends to mean anyone at least half-way freaky deaky (like kinky straight folks think of themselves as “queer” now). It doesn’t speak to me as a lesbian at all. I think we, meaning lesbians, get lost in the LGBT alphabet soup. But that’s me. I think there…

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Some cartoons from Chaos Life.

24 Apr

Originally posted on The Prime Directive:

From Chaos Life (1, 2, 3, 4)

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Children of Fathers Who Decide To Become Transgender

21 Apr

“Thank you wonderful women! This is the first time that I have seen in print any discussion of what the children of trans parents go through. These kids are far more deserving of public support and sympathy than any trans-child. The problem is partly that that last thing they want is for any one , […]”

“The problem is partly that that last thing they want is for any one , least of all their peers, to know that their parent is in any way different.”


“Kids are really into conformity as they try to make sense of the world and place things into categories, figure out social norms. All kids have to come to terms with the fact that their parents and families of origin are not “normal”, whether because a parent is differently-abled, or is an immigrant with cultural or language differences, or because mom runs a funeral home or dad has long hair and wears eye-liner.

All kids are probably mortified by their parents.

The difference here is lying to children, and/or forcing them to pretend something is true that is not true. It’s perfectly well to subject a kid to a parent who believes that Freemasons run the country. The problem comes when the kid is required to soldier for that parent’s belief. It seems especially damaging when a child is used by a parent as a malleable tool of affirmation for the benefit of the parent’s emotional life. Forced adherence to “family secrets” fall into this category as well.

Telling a kid that her dad is becoming a tranny because he believes personality traits are rooted in reproductive biology is one thing (a horrible thing to feminists, lesbians and gays, granted). Forcing that kid to also believe, or pretend to believe that papa has now become female, on his command, is abusive.

It’s no different than a David Koresh type situation.

It’s okay (at least legally!) for dad to believe he is The Prophet. Forcing his children under duress to affirm his belief is abusive. Forcing the child to soldier for that belief, even more so.”


Dear Moneygram: WTF?

17 Apr

Finally, Moneygram  responds to my repeated efforts to get them to refund the money from my canceled transaction. With a note intended towards a different customer.

i would consider following their instructions if not for the “do not reply” bit.


Dear MoneyGram Customer:

Thank you for contacting MoneyGram. We appreciate the opportunity to address any questions or concerns you may have.

Your funds will be credited to your original payment source once you have requested your cancellation and/or refund request. Please allow 3-10 business days for your refund. We look forward to assisting you in the future, and appreciate your interest in MoneyGram.

Electronic Operations Department

Someone illegally accessed my account and tried to send money to one Natalia Pisanina. I did not authorize this transaction and I have cancelled it. Please make sure the amount of money $821+ is refunded back into my account ASAP!

This message may contain confidential information. If you are not the intended recipient, please notify the sender immediately and delete this email from your system.


Lie Dead

15 Apr



Originally posted on Rebecca Mott:

This is a long piece about my stepdad.

I will always love this piece of writing, because it cleared my stepdad away into a box.


I feel I’m at a stage in my life when I can write. I only remember in bits. Much of my life is full of gaps. Rape can be blanked out, to lead a “normal” life. I remember events without feelings. Remember feelings without knowing where they come from. I will remember as clear as I can inside gaps and silences.


I am drunk at a party. Round me others are chatting about sex. There is calm, sarcastic laughter. A voice said –

“Hole so small – like a 6-year-old.”

I freeze. Don’t show you’re scared. I try laughing, but my throat jams. Now it appears everything I hear is about child sex. I’m shaking.

“Shut up. You don’t know what you’re…

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Lesbians in the News 11/04/2015

14 Apr

Originally posted on listening2lesbians:

Lesbians in the news

05/04/2015 – 011/04/2015

Fight Homophobia–Help a Lesbian

Mary Kristene Chapa and Mollie Olgin (Image source: Curve Magazine) Mary Kristene Chapa and Mollie Olgin (Image source: Curve Magazine)

In an example of an appalling hate crime in 2012, two two young lesbians went on a date but were viciously attacked. Mollie Olgin was killed and Mary Kristene Chapa was left for dead.

Their attacker was arrested in 2014 but was not charged with a hate crime, despite sufficient evidence to justify it.

Despite the horror of the crime, Mary Kristene Chapa’s medical fund has only raised $12,882, compared to the over $800,000 raised for Memories Pizza, the pizzeria that declined to cater same sex weddings.

Horrific anti lesbian crime occur routinely and they are not reported. When they are, this is the level of interest they garner.

This is lesbophobia and silencing writ large.

Please read more about Mollie and Mary in Victoria A Brownworth’s piece and please donate to help Mary Kristene Chapa with…

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