“Thank you wonderful women! This is the first time that I have seen in print any discussion of what the children of trans parents go through. These kids are far more deserving of public support and sympathy than any trans-child. The problem is partly that that last thing they want is for any one , […]”
“The problem is partly that that last thing they want is for any one , least of all their peers, to know that their parent is in any way different.”
“Kids are really into conformity as they try to make sense of the world and place things into categories, figure out social norms. All kids have to come to terms with the fact that their parents and families of origin are not “normal”, whether because a parent is differently-abled, or is an immigrant with cultural or language differences, or because mom runs a funeral home or dad has long hair and wears eye-liner.
All kids are probably mortified by their parents.
The difference here is lying to children, and/or forcing them to pretend something is true that is not true. It’s perfectly well to subject a kid to a parent who believes that Freemasons run the country. The problem comes when the kid is required to soldier for that parent’s belief. It seems especially damaging when a child is used by a parent as a malleable tool of affirmation for the benefit of the parent’s emotional life. Forced adherence to “family secrets” fall into this category as well.
Telling a kid that her dad is becoming a tranny because he believes personality traits are rooted in reproductive biology is one thing (a horrible thing to feminists, lesbians and gays, granted). Forcing that kid to also believe, or pretend to believe that papa has now become female, on his command, is abusive.
It’s no different than a David Koresh type situation.
It’s okay (at least legally!) for dad to believe he is The Prophet. Forcing his children under duress to affirm his belief is abusive. Forcing the child to soldier for that belief, even more so.”