28 Sep

The other day I was at the grocery store, and I came across a woman I know from many years ago.

We had fallen out for dumb reasons. We had both been going through some difficult transitions.

I checked up on her online, a few times. Found her Facebook account. Determined she still lived here. One of the ones I regret.

And there she was, hailing me in the aisle of the grocery store. Wanting to talk.

And we did. We became, for awhile, two of those slightly annoying oldish women standing around, immersed in conversation in some grocery store aisle, with little girls skittering around us saying “Sorry!”

“I hate it when they do that,” she said. “How girls are always saying they’re sorry.”

Eventually we both agreed that we had to finish our shopping, and that it would be a good thing to do this again, somehow, even if only at random.

It was as if we’d never parted. It was like some kind of marvelous dance, and later I wondered that I could do this so easily, just waltz back into this association with this charming, intelligent woman, now in her sixties, as I will be soon. It didn’t seem like me, this social agility.

And then I realized where I’d learned it. Here. Everywhere I go, running across women acquaintances, friends, everywhere, all of you. Trading notes, exchanging support, being careful, and then moving on back into my solitary life, and then back into this world of talking with women, endlessly.

I know this script so well. And really, it’s not a bad script, at all. It’s a method of navigation. And it works, even outside of the Internet. Who’d have thought?

If there is no such thing as being ‘born in the wrong body’, what is transgenderism?

27 Sep


The most common reason patients come to see me is because of consequences of lifestyle (such as diabetes and high blood pressure from being overweight and sedentary). Most people intend to be healthier, they say they want to exercise regularly, they want to eat better, they don’t want to be on medication, but they find themselves too busy with managing family and work and the chores of life, and feel too tired to go for a jog and have no time to prepare a meal from scratch. In truth, every aspect in a day is a choice, everything we do or don’t do is a decision, and these decisions demonstrate our priorities. In our North American culture, we are encouraged to strive, to be over-worked, to be over-committed; many of us have to live like this for financial reasons, but our culture encourages this over-subscribed lifestyle to keep us consuming and to keep us distracted from paying attention to our best interests.

Not taking care of our basic needs for good health can cause or exacerbate anxiety.

Anxiety arises out of difference, out of comparing ourselves or being compared, from fearing or being judged ‘less than.’ These differences are based on aspects such as class, race, ethnicity, biology – generally traits that we have no choice about, and thereby easy targets – and they are used to gate-keep us, to determine who has access to what sorts of education and employment and housing. These differences determine your opportunities in your life. These differences are used to determine who has access to ‘the good life.’

Excerpt from: If there is no such thing as being ‘born in the wrong body’, what is transgenderism?

Things possibly related to something probably very important that I might have forgotten or maybe not.

25 Sep

This is a great blog.

Hello, I am a bear


What thing did I forget that is probably related to the following list of various things that might be the details of the thing I might have forgotten probably?

  • A dumpster
  • Muddy, slippery ground
  • I slipped in some mud?
  • Feelings of inadequate height
  • The dumpster might have been taller than I am, and I do not like that about dumpsters because they are very difficult to climb into?
  • At least one baby raccoon
  • A very ripped up blue plastic bag
  • The raccoon was maybe inside the very ripped up blue plastic bag?
  • Lots of screeching
  • So much screeching
  • It hurt my ears, I know that
  • The moon looking very judgmental
  • The moon did not say anything, I doubt, but it looked very judgmental probably
  • Handling very fragile things
  • Moving things with my teeth, which are not very good for handling very fragile things
  • Moving very fragile things with my teeth…

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Detransitioning Guidelines

24 Sep

From De-transitioning From Transgenderism, by Dr. Kathy Mandigo

Link here.

“These guidelines are written for clinicians who wish to provide support for those individuals who wish to stop attempts to transition to the opposite gender. These guidelines recognize that much, if not all, of transgender care is based on a conflation of gender and biology, that biologic sex cannot be changed regardless of hormones and surgery, and that attempts at biologic reassignment of gender identity is fallacious and harmful. For those individuals who have taken steps along the gender reassignment path and have realized that such efforts have not given them the biologic body they believed would solve their dysphoria, and who have recognized that their underlying dysphoria was not with their biologic body nor identified gender in the first place, it is a daunting admission to reject continued participation in the transgender narrative. For such individuals, who were promised ‘lasting personal comfort with their gendered selves,’ rejecting this narrative means not only refusing further transitioning medical intervention, which cannot be reversed, it means grieving the biologic body they cannot retrieve and facing afresh the primary dysphoria which was interpreted as gender identity. It also means, for most, a loss of community, often with severe backlash from those who remain committed to the transgender narrative.”

Please see the link for the rest.

Our Amazon: Maxine Feldman

23 Sep

Thank you.


maxine-feldman Photo by Toni Armstrong Jr.

Before Stonewall, on May 13, 1969, folksinger and trail blazer Maxine Feldman wrote “Angry Atthis,” a song about not being able to openly love her female partner. Songs like that didn’t exist before then. Maxine went on to perform and record for the exciting women’s music network in the seventies and beyond with songs about a myriad of topics, especially lesbians. Not only was Maxine a friend of mine, but she was a great entertainer who was vital to our culture.  

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No staff, no programs at UVic’s Third Space

23 Sep

Dreadful feminists, wanting to use women’s centers when there are men in need of them.

UVic Womyn's Centre

The latest news from the Third Space collective (formerly the University of Victoria Women’s Centre) comes from a source who received a letter from the collective’s governing body, the UVic Students Society. According to the letter, the staff have left or quit, and no one is currently running programs at the Third Space. Kay Gallivan’s term as Communications Coordinator has ended, and Nadia Hamdon has stepped down from her role as Finance Coordinator, the source said.

We can understand why people might distance themselves from the group, especially since it voted in August 2016 to “donate” thousands of dollars of university money to its own former Finance Coordinator, Daphne Shaed – the self-proclaimed “tranny cyborg Hindu goddess” who looks to us like a white man with a huge case of entitlement.

The Third Space collective has been in a state of chaos since it started making concessions…

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De-Transitioning From Transgenderism: New Blog

23 Sep

“I am starting this blog as a way to offer my support to anyone who is considering or reconsidering gender transition. In the current climate, voices critiquing transgenderism are often intimidated into silence. I want to create a safe forum for those who have journeyed down, any distance, the path of transgenderism and now have doubts.

I also want to welcome health care professionals who are questioning the current medical construct of transgenderism.

In 2015, I wrote an essay, My Disservice to My Transgender Patients, which received some attention, almost all positive. Clearly, there is desire for conversation about transgenderism.

I am a medical doctor, but I will not offer advice beyond my general opinions. A blog is not an adequate means to practice medicine.”

Post by Kathy Mandigo.

‘Statement on the importance of freedom of speech’

23 Sep

Anti-Porn Feminists

Free speech is the lifeblood of a university. It enables the pursuit of knowledge. It helps us approach truth. It allows students, teachers and researchers to become better acquainted with the variety of beliefs, theories and opinions in the world. Recognising the vital importance of free expression for the life of the mind, a university may make rules concerning the conduct of debate but should never prevent speech that is lawful.

Inevitably, this will mean that members of the University are confronted with views that some find unsettling, extreme or offensive. The University must therefore foster freedom of expression within a framework of robust civility. Not all theories deserve equal respect. A university values expertise and
intellectual achievement as well as openness. But, within the bounds set by law, all voices or views which any member of our community considers relevant should be given the chance of a hearing. Wherever…

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The Green Party is actively silencing women

23 Sep

Hell of a way to win over voters, blocking people on Twitter. Cowardly. Profoundly disappointing. There is no one to vote for anymore, even as a symbolic gesture.

A butterfly's diary

The Green Party has managed to get itself into a mess. It started when it referred to women as non-men and has escalated to the point where Green Party groups on Twitter are urging their followers to use block bots. As the name suggests, these operate by automatically blocking certain users according to criteria set by unknown administrators. And by no coincidence these block bots predominantly target feminists, particularly those who argue that biology matters. The label “TERF” is quickly waved about to justify this action, and this achieves two things: to shame those women speaking up and to dismiss anything they might have to say. For those who are not aware, TERF is a slur. If you have never visited the excellent TERF is a slur, I thoroughly recommend it.


Photo credit: @JeanHatchet (follow her if you don’t already do.)

Sex-based oppression is a problem. The range of issues and the…

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Book Review: “All the Real Indians Died Off” And 20 Other Myths About Native Americans By Roxanne Dunbar-Ortiz and Dina Gilio-Whitaker

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La Jicarita


On the heels of her new book An Indigenous Peoples’ History of the United States Roxanne Dunbar-Ortiz has teamed up with Dina Gilio-Whitaker to take on the ignorant, confused, ridiculous, and downright hateful misconceptions promulgated about Indigenous people in the US. It comes at a propitious time, when Indigenous people from all over the world have gathered at the Standing Rock Sioux Reservation in North Dakota to protest the Dakota Access Pipeline from the Bakken oil fields to Illinois. All the “Real Indians” who supposedly died off are out there on the ground putting their bodies on the line to protect their cultural sites, the waters of the Missouri River, and to force a “real” conversation about this country’s efforts to extract and profit from the dirty Bakken oil—at the expense of people’s health and the future of the planet.

This stand-off is only the latest…

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