A Letter To A Pastor

28 Nov

A Letter To A Pastor

Something I emailed to a local liberal pastor today, after perusing his church’s website. 


Hi. I have a question for you.

Regarding your noting that you are welcoming of everyone regardless of gender identity, does this mean that you do not believe women have the right to any public spaces that are penis-free? Including, but not limited to: public restrooms, locker rooms, shelters, and prison cells?

Because that’s where this goes, legally. See California.

I don’t see how that constitutes radical unconditional love, though it does come off as rape-enabling.

Men should have every right to present any way they want without being discriminated against or abused. But they should not have the right to decide they are women. It’s an insult to women and dangerous. It’s also unscientific. There is no solid science to support gendered brains, it’s all been debunked.

I really wonder how much you’ve looked into this. Overall your mission statement etc. and activities in this community are commendable and admirable. I’ve always thought you a delightful joyous person. I appreciate your non-discrimination policy about homosexuals no end, especially since this is a difficult town for such.

But men, as a class, are dangerous to women, and transwomen profile the same (or worse) than other men with regards to violence. They run high with personality disorders, IV drug use, prostitution and HIV. While I agree wholeheartedly that these damaged people should not be shunned, they do tend to insist they are really women, which is an imposition on women. They mostly do not have vagioplasties. Some also insist they are lesbians, including the intact ones, and claim lesbians discriminate against them for not wanting to date them and their “lady-sticks.”

Women who insist they are men are a whole nother ball of wax. Gender role enforcement drives all of this, though, and women are not a trash can caste in which to dump non-gender-conforming men. In fact, it can be argued well that transgender philosophy is homophobic, as children who identify with the opposite sex often grow up to be gay or lesbian, if not interfered with.

Thank you for your time and attention.

Miep Rowan O’Brien


3 Responses to “A Letter To A Pastor”

  1. Mary Sunshine 2013/11/28 at 2:13 am #

    Well done! I hope he listens.


    • Miep 2013/11/28 at 2:21 am #

      Thanks! I really do think he’s a nice guy. He is so going to think I’m a lesbian. I think that’s maybe the idea behind being a “political lesbian,” to feel so comfortable supporting lesbians and other women that you don’t give a damn whether anyone believes you’re a lesbian.

      But the real step here for me was that this makes me an activist, because this is personal and local and can affect me directly.


    • Miep 2013/11/28 at 2:38 am #

      I’m hoping he’ll engage with me on this, as there is so much more to talk about, such as it being a failing of men as a caste that non-conforming men have such terrible problems, and how badly gender enforcement hurts women across the board.

      I was thinking about visiting his church, because otherwise I expect they might be a decent church, as churches go, and churches are what we have here. I think it would be good for him to hash out the gender identity thing better. I bought it when I first read about it. The conditioning runs deep. We’ll see what happens.


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