The Gift of Fear – Discounting the Word “No” – The Experience for Woman and Men is Different.

10 Feb

Dead Wild Roses

parkade2   Gavin de Becker in his book The Gift of Fear is about how we sometimes short circuit the information we receive from the environment.  Here is an excerpt regarding a seeking help in a situation and concluding with how social dynamics really bollocks things up for women.

   “A woman alone who needs assistance is actually far better off choosing someone and asking for help, as opposed to waiting for an unsolicited approach. The person you choose is nowhere near as likely to bring you hazard as is the person who chooses you. That’s because the possibility that you’ll inadvertently select a predatory criminal for whom you are the right victim type is very remote. I encourage women to ask other women for help when they need it, and it’s likewise safer to accept an offer from a woman than from a man. (Unfortunately, women rarely make such offers…

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