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“Not a pimp, a manager;” The Toronto Star investigates sex trafficking in Ontario

15 Dec

 

One of the victims Carville spoke with was a 27-year-old named Natalie who met her pimp at 23. She was confined to a hotel room and forced to have sex with strangers day and night. Natalie made $30,000 in one month, handing it all over to her pimp, who has since been arrested and is awaiting trial. She says she could have left: “I never really knew what trafficking was. To me, it was always a relationship,” she told the Star. “I felt like he really loved me.”

Even when the girls are free to leave, they’re afraid to. Sergeant Martin Dick told the Star that he found one teenage girl in a hotel room wearing only lingerie and said, “Just let us help you, please.” She then collapsed on to the floor. Dick says, “This girl was crying her eyes out, but she just wouldn’t come because she was so downtrodden and beaten and broken. It’s so hard to walk out that door, because you don’t know what you’re leaving her to.”

 

Matthew Deiaco is charged with human trafficking and is serving time at the Toronto East Detention Centre in Scarborough. He tells Carville: “Sex is a part of life. I think if a woman wants to make money off of it, she shouldn’t have to go to jail [and neither should] somebody that’s helping her. It’s her life, it’s her body.”

 

Deiaco explains to Carville that it’s easy to get these girls to fall in love with him and do his bidding. “Most of these girls are broken,” Deiaco says. “You just answer their call.”

 

Read the rest at Feminist Current.

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The Milkman of Human Kindness

10 Dec

By Miade

“The 25th November, 2015 was International White Ribbon Day, to mark the occasion an event was organized in the Pillar Room of the Rotunda Hospital, Dublin. The White Ribbon Campaign is a global male led campaign which aims at ending all forms of men’s violence against women & girls which includes prostitution. Ireland is very lucky to have a remarkable man and my dearest friend Tom Meagher as our White Ribbon advocate. I was honoured to be asked by Tom to be the closing speaker and here is my speech. (some familiar words at the start but please read on).”

Excerpt:

“As today is a remarkable day, a gathering of many leading men and women who have decided to take a stand and join the fight to end all forms of men’s violence against women and girls, I thought I would share a brief story from the street that reflects that. You see, my search in life as always been for the good, even on that street I tried to find it, and on this one night it made itself visible. It was a freezing cold night in November, about 7yrs ago and it was the only night I had ever gone out to the street and had not been purchased by someone which had left me with no money. By 3.30am I knew I would be there till morning, I had enough change on me to get the bus home but would have to wait until they began. I walked into the driveway of the first house on the Burlington Road and huddled up in the corner of the door way, I tried to cover every inch of my skin with my long black coat. I placed my hands up the opposite sleeves of my coat and tucked the end of my coat under my boots. I can’t remember ever feeling that cold before, the shivering becomes uncontrollable, and eventually your limbs go numb but there’s a strange stinging sensation also. I tried to hum or remember tunes in my head to keep myself awake, I was terrified to sleep in case I didn’t wake up and yet I longed for that, for I knew that the street was killing me slowly and maybe tonight was my night. After about two hours or so I heard footsteps coming into the drive on the gravel, my heart began to pound, I tried to reach into my bag to get my pencil. I had decided after the last time I had been raped that if a buyer ever tried to rape me again, I would stick a sharp pencil in him, it wouldn’t do much damage but it would give me enough time to get away. But my fingers were too stiff; I couldn’t find it in my bag. Then I heard a voice, a man’s voice but he spoke softly “are you alright” he said. I must have had a panicked look on my face when I looked up at him, because he said quickly, “I’m not gonna hurt you, I’m the Milkman, I just want to know if you’re alright”. I told him I was grand and thanks. He asked me why I was there, I told him I hadn’t made any money and was stuck until the buses started but that wouldn’t be too long and I’d be grand. His voice got firmer, “You won’t be grand, you’re frozen solid, how much would a taxi be to your home” he asked. About 20 euros I said. Well you stay there and I’ll go get one for you. No, I’m alright you don’t have to do that I replied. He turned back around and faced me, he said “I not leaving a woman, half-dressed, frozen solid on a street like this; sure anything could happen you Love, now don’t move and I’ll be back. The minutes passed and then I heard him call me, “C’mon love I have a taxi”. I got up off the cold steps and walked slowly out the gate to the taxi. He opened the door for me and I got in, he placed 30 euros in my hand, I said “You’ve given me too much money”, “I know” he said, “stop and get yourself a coffee and something to eat on the way home”. I said thanks but I don’t know when I can pay this back. He smiled and replied “just get home & get warm & I never said I wanted it back love”. He shut the car door and I left. I stared out the window until I could no longer see him and part of me didn’t want to leave him. The milkman of Human Kindness as the song says, because before we are anything we are human.”

You may read the rest of this post on Surviving Prostitution.

The Sexiest Oppression

9 Dec

Excellent work by Natasha Chart, via Feminist Current

Excerpt:

“To see a commercially produced picture of an obviously terrified and restrained woman with a knife held up to her face, presented as an object of sexual entertainment, is to infer the existence of an audience that is pleasurably aroused by this scenario. I hope that I know no such men, that I never meet them, that no one I care about crosses the path of such a person. Because how would you know? There is no “type” of man who rapes and abuses — such men are everywhere, they look like everyone else. No woman has any reason to give a man who enjoys a picture of a woman being abused the benefit of the doubt that he would not like to experience that in person, that he would not like to cause that fear himself.

This is part of how a woman’s fear becomes something other than evidence of intimidation, as it should be, how instead our fear becomes evidence to men of sex, romance, even love. A man can fear for his life and kill a stranger in self-defense after a single encounter. A woman fears for her life because of a long history of threats or violence, and if she stays, or complies, or even retaliates, her actions will be viewed through a lens that sees fear as a normal part of a supposedly consenting sexual relationship for women. Any injury the man commits will often be seen as her shared responsibility, part of their relationship.

Too many men see the torture and abuse of women and think it’s an especially sexy kind of fun. Too many women, anxious to avoid being called “sex-negative,” want to be game and go along with it. The existence of some women who like their part in pornography or religiously compelled submission are held up in male-dominated politics as the only women’s voices that matter; no one is supposed to care about women who experienced these cultures as a long series of abuses that they couldn’t find their way out of at the time, or the other women who have to deal with the consequences of how men behave after such indoctrination.”

Lee Lakeman and Alice Lee, Chris Hedges Interview

2 Dec

This is well worth twenty-five minutes of your life.

Days of Revolt: The Moral Bankruptcy of the Left on Prostitution

Alice Lee, Asian Women Ending Prostitution

Lee Lakeman, Vancouver Rape Relief and Women’s Shelter

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A Voice Of Confidence For Amnesty

13 Aug

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Children Are Victims, Including Prostitutes

26 Sep

Center For Public Integrity:   New Report Urges New Approaches To Child Prostitution

http://www.publicintegrity.org/2013/09/26/13468/report-urges-new-approach-child-prostitution

“Police and prosecutors should treat juveniles accused of prostitution as victims of crime and abuse and stop arresting these minors and putting them into the criminal justice system, according to a report released Tuesday by Institute of Medicine and the National Research Council.

The institute and council are under the auspices of the prestigious National Academy of Sciences. The report, “Confronting Commercial Sexual Exploitation and Sex Trafficking of Minors in the United States” was sponsored by the Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention at the U.S. Department of Justice. “

Good Going, Nigel

14 Jun

Good Going, Nigel

Man calls police line to complain about prostitute (+ audio)

http://www.nzherald.co.nz/world/news/article.cfm?c_id=2&objectid=10890567

A British man has received a warning from police after calling 999 – the UK’s emergency line – to complain that a prostitute he met outside a hotel was not as attractive as she had promised.

The nuisance caller claimed that the woman had “breached the Sale of Goods Act” by mis-representing her looks in a newspaper advert.

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